A look back 3 - Section 3 First Dates

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HE SAID

...Then General Conference time arrived. I went to see the Priesthood session at a local chapel with my roommate Christian, Alexis’ home teacher. Afterwards he invited me to go to a party that Alexis’ roommates were having at their house. When we got there we were just hanging out when I saw Alexis walk into the room. I knew she lived there but it hadn’t dawned on me beforehand. I spent the first little bit meeting some new people and eating some food. I was in the kitchen talking to some people when Alexis came in and started talking to me. She asked me if I was done eating and if I wanted to go into the living room. I said ok and we went into the living room and hung out and talked and talked with some of the others in the room and were having a good time.

Earlier in the evening I heard her talk about an ex-boyfriend but didn’t know how recent an ex. So while we were in the living room I tried to subtly (this time I succeeded in my subtlety) find out if she was dating someone. This time I found out she was not. Later my roommate decided to go home so I told him I would find a ride. So I turned to Alexis and asked her for a ride home. She agreed. We spent the rest of the evening hanging out and talking, I even offered to go with her to pick up her sister Noelle. It was a lot of fun. So, the whole night I wanted to ask her out but I didn’t know if I would have the nerve. When she gave me a ride home I kept thinking it is now or never. When we got to my house, before I got out of the car, I practically blurted out, “I think we should go out sometime.” She had a big smile on her face and said yes. I got her number and said goodbye and went into my house.

She beat me to the punch though and called me the next day to invite me to a session of conference at the conference center. We spent some time together after and we went out again the following weekend. That was two and a half months ago. We have seen each other almost everyday since. By some people’s standards our relationship has progressed very quickly, but in my mind it has progressed naturally. Everything feels exactly right. Everyday I am with Alexis is a blessing. She is a remarkable woman and I am lucky to have her in my life.

SHE SAID

In October my roommates and I had a General Conference party. Christopher, along with his roommate Christian (Rocksprings), came. When he walked in the door I made mental note of it and it interested me but I didn’t really think more on it. *Side note: at that time, I had just gotten out of a crappy relationship and so I really was not looking. In all honesty, I didn’t want to date. I was fed up and I still hurt. That is what makes this all so interesting.

During the party Christopher was in the kitchen and I went in and we started talking. I don’t quite remember what we were talking about, maybe movies or something, but I remember thinking how great he was and how it was nice to have an intelligent conversation that was with a member of the opposite sex. It seemed really natural and not hard. In that conversation I could tell he liked me but I didn’t really think anything about it. Then we moved from the kitchen into the living room. He stuck around me and yet I didn’t feel like I had to entertain him because he was interacting with other people in the room. His roommate left and Chris asked me for a ride home. We hung out the rest of the night; he even went with me to pick up Noelle.

We talked a lot and really got along well. I liked him. He was interested in me. The way he looked at me was totally different from when we first met or would see each other around the ward. When I took him home, he said “we should go out sometime.” I said okay. He got my number and then we went our separate ways. Since then he was in the back of my mind, but I was still getting over a previous relationship so I didn’t really think anything.

My roommate Janet was a huge encouragement. She was very excited and I think she saw the potential for our relationship before, at least before I ever did. I had no thoughts of “I wonder if I will marry him” or “I wonder where this will go”. I just thought, I knew that Christopher was a great guy and I deserved to be around someone that was great. I had fun with him and all we were doing was talking. That to me was wonderful.

Since then we have been together and I have fallen in love with him. I didn’t even really realize it. It snuck up on me. And I wasn’t really expecting it either. To be honest it shocked me when I realized the feelings of Love were there. And when I said it, it freaked me out. I didn’t think I would fall in love so quickly. But over the course of our relationship I have felt that the Lord’s hand was in it. I love him so much and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him.